“The only journey is the journey within.” – Rainer Maria Rilke


There is a ripple stretching out across new waters. Have you felt it? A ripple that has many women questioning what they thought they knew was true. About themselves, their roles and the frenetic pace in which they live. Questions are arising about what is real in the realm of the true self.

It’s a remembering of sorts, of who women were long before life got busy. Hidden memories are surfacing of a time when a woman’s worth was not determined by her achievements, acquisitions and ability to balance a too full basket. A new way forward is making itself known. She is remembering a slower, quieter and more peaceful path to creating, expressing and being who she is.


This is happening right now, get on the train! Women are waking up and remembering the truth of who they are.


The brave ones are slowing down. Quietening the constant hum and learning to listen deep within. They are moving through thick scrub to retrieve lost truths, heal old stories and awaken their true self.


The True Self and the Everyday Self

I came across an article entitled “How to Tell the Difference Between Your True Self and Your Everyday Self” by Deepak Chopra. In it Chopra summarised five qualities that differ between the true self and the every day self. Yes you have both!

  1. The true self is certain and clear about things. The everyday self gets influenced by countless outside influences, leading to confusion.
  2. The true self is stable. The everyday self shifts constantly.
  3. The true self is driven by a deep sense of truth. The everyday self is driven by the ego, the unending demands of “I, me, mine.”
  4. The true self is at peace. The everyday self is easily agitated and disturbed.
  5. The true self is love. The everyday self, lacking love, seeks it from outside sources

Any of that feel familiar? Perhaps you’ve already seen glimpses of your true self.


In 2012 I had a moment of awakening that as a fleeting experience, is hard to put into words. Although I promptly fell back to sleep (not literally), I couldn’t dull the quiet knowing that our true self exists as our core, our essence. Our beingness that doesn’t change.


The true self does not shift like the ebb and flow of thoughts, emotions and behaviours that the small self gets caught up in, whilst navigating everyday life. The true self is wise and with practice, your small self can access the deep wisdom held there.

I especially resonate with Deepak’s article, as it goes on to say,

“…begin to recognize and encourage the qualities of the true self, your life will begin to change. You’ll make better choices. You’ll expand your awareness. You’ll discover and encourage your purpose.”

Why Bother Awakening to Your True Self?

Because most of your thoughts and feelings are not the truth. Busyness doesn’t have to be the reality. Left unquestioned, you remain asleep, afraid, unconscious and burnt out. Who really wants that? Your true self is the source of your creativity and growth. You are an infinite, intelligent and creative being designed for evolutionary growth. You’re not made for staying stuck, small and suffering.


With practice, you can connect with the source of wisdom from which you create your most fulfilling, meaningful and creative life.


Your instinct is to grow. Hence the call of your heart (soul, spirit, insert spiritually comforting word). It will keep calling until you heed it. The longer you ignore the call, the more challenging the lessons appear. Heed the call. Foster a practice. Get to know (be) your wiser, true self.


Craving Space? Listen Within

When you commit to journeying the inner path, pointless busyness needs to take a back seat. You’ll want to create space to support your experience. Simply put, space is required to accommodate new growth. If you feel a yearning for space, listen to where it is calling you to slow down and stretch toward stillness.

Craving space is a common desire among women today. This I know well because it was my story. When motherhood didn’t fill the gaping hole, I filled my life up with work. I got busy. I got stressed. I stopped listening to the gentle call of my heart.

These days my personal path makes use of a number of meditation and self-care practices to bring me back to myself over and over again (because I’m human and forget). Your path may look different. There is no right way, many paths can led you home.