“We are afraid of ideas, of experimenting, of change. We shrink from thinking a problem through to a logical conclusion.” ~ Anne Sullivan
Busyness has become a plague that sucks the life out of our days. I got on my high horse about it here last week. This week I want to encourage you to experiment with putting some calm and space back into your days.
My passion for this topic comes from spending much of my life since having children, in a state of perpetual busyness and overwhelm. It need not be starting a family that triggers busyness, this just happened to be the case for me.
These days busyness no longer plagues me. Nor does the anxiety of not being enough. And while it may seem like a big mountain to climb, I know it is possible to free yourself from busyness and overwhelm.
Taking notice of where and how you spend your time, is crucial to owning up to your part in this. Experimenting with alternatives to your automatic daily habits, will help you to notice what activities are helping or hurting you.
Can you focus your attention, calm a swirling mind or experience moments of boredom and be okay with it?
Can you turn a frown upside down?
You might not think so right now, however experience tells me that it is absolutely possible.
Freedom from overwhelm and busyness, begins with letting go of the things in life that don’t serve you well. And just for today, let’s experiment to see what they might be.
Here are 12 new actions you can try out today:
- Delete 10 people from your social media feed whose surname you can’t recall. Go on, I dare you!
- Double batch your evening meal. Doing this just once a week frees up 30 – 45 minutes the following evening. Or deep freeze and save for a day, when the thought of cooking makes you want to cry.
- Don’t buy anything new. Everything you own requires either space to store, attention to maintain or time to clean.
- Play the Only 10 game. Invite your kids to choose only 10 toys they can access for the week and store the rest. They will appreciate spending less time tidying and you’ll enjoy spending less time bugging them to clean up.
- Remove one social media app from your phone and if you’re feeling frivolous, remove them all. Remind yourself it’s a one day trial and be sure to check in and give yourself feedback at the end of the day.
- Open your snail mail as soon as you walk in the door. Pay any bills and action the rest on the spot. Yes, even if you have kids or pets whinging to be feed. Taking a few minutes to do this each day will feel so good and after a few short weeks, it’ll be a solid habit you don’t even think about.
- Don’t answer your phone. Let it go, let it go…
- Create a Zen like email inbox by deleting email subscriptions that don’t lift you up, support your values or inspire possibility.
- Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can happen right now if this does not get done?” When you come up with your wild answer, I’d like you to ask yourself this, “will I remember this day of not getting this done, when I am on my death bed?” It’s a powerful question. Listen for the answer.
- Ask for help. Women who do too much, I’m talking to you! There will come a time when you will need to face up to having a vulnerable conversation and declare you can no longer do it all. Start that conversation today.
- Stretch out your parameters of perfection. If you aren’t ready to drop the ideal altogether, try stretching it out. If you’d normally wash the towels every second day, stretch it out to every third day.
- Set your morning alarm for 5 minutes earlier. As the alarm goes off, sigh. Just one big focused sigh and as you take your next breath, welcome the possibility for less busyness in your day.
Let’s do this all in the name of experimenting. If you are busy, overwhelmed and feeling disconnected from your true path in life, begin here.
Experiments are conducted with the intention of testing out hypothesis.
I hypothesize that conducting any of the above actions, will led to greater calm and more space and time in your day.
Experiment with something on the list today and come back and tell me what you learn about yourself tomorrow.